July 5th, 2010 | Posted in Moneylove
Your Personal Dependence Assessment
So every year on the 4th of July, I focus on my personal independence, and do a spot check of the ways in which I experience and manifest freedom in my life. I count my blessings, including that of living in a free society where freedom for most people is not a major issue, but mainly a state of mind. Meaning that one can be as free as one chooses, create the life one chooses, and the work one chooses, and the environment one chooses without fear someone will come and destroy it all.
But this year I decided to do something different, and look instead at those things I was dependent on for my success and happiness. I made a list, my Personal Dependence Assessment.
I suggest you do the same, as I found it enlightening, and it produced a result that I always find exciting and very useful: It made me look at some factors in my life in a brand new way.
Nowadays, in this “land of the free” dependence has become sort of a dirty word. And often is used to describe someone who is weak and dependent on others for financial survival–or enslaved by dependence on drugs or alcohol, and “depend” has sadly become synonymous with the brand of adult diapers not only using that name but actually trademarking it. So we intend to avoid or ignore the concept of depending on others as a positive aspect of life.
My favorite definition of “depend”, however, speaks to a necessary aspect of all our lives: ”To place reliance or trust on.” While it is very important to depend mostly on ourselves in this life, we are not alone and we do need others. It is a uniquely human attribute to be able to choose to rely on or trust others. In fact, the better we are at choosing who and what to place reliance or trust on, who or what to depend on, the more successful our lives, the most satisfying our results, the more fulfilling our efforts.
A Healthy Sense of Dependence
No matter how self sufficient you may be, you do need certain things in your life to make it easier and happier and more fulfilling. What are they? That’s for you to explore in making your Personal Dependence Assessment. I decided in this first exploration of this new idea for myself to limit it to three things that are essential for the current path I have chosen, three things I depend on right now to help me get to where I want to go.
1. This Blog–that’s right, I consider my blog my personal window out into the world. It’s how I expect people, including the many thousands of Moneylove fans who may not even know I’m still alive and kicking, to find me and find out what I am doing and thinking and offering right now. That’s why I put the best of my thoughts and ideas right here, concepts and strategies I would have charged a solid fee for in the past. And it’s why I spend a certain portion of my time learning all I can about how to produce a better, more effective, more interesting, and more widely distributed blog.
2. The Moneylove Club–You probably already know about my most significant vehicle for teaching the new Moneylove principles of prosperity consciousness. In addition to this blog, I am putting most of my creative energy into producing what I intend to be the most powerful audio programs for prosperity and personal growth ever created. An ambitious aspiration, I admit, but from the feedback I’ve been getting from the subscribing members, it’s happening. And the mini-coaching session each member gets by asking me a question every month and getting a personal answer, has produced some pretty amazing results for those who have taken advantage of this. Way beyond what I anticipated when I first offered this bonus feature.
And as part of the Personal Dependence Assessment, I suggest you also list what you are doing to improve this particular relationship in your life, whether it’s a person (perhaps a teacher or mentor), an object (this could be technical, like your smart phone, or laptop, or even a particular software that is important in what you are doing in the world), or a service (one that you are using or one that you are offering). For my audio club, I am going to The Apple Store in San Francisco every week for a one-to-one consultation on using and learning my Garageband audio software. I also tap into the superior knowledge of such friends as voiceover superstar Kevin Delaney to provide knowledge in areas I haven’t mastered yet.
3. My Past Success–That’s right, I am dependent on all the success and visibility I achieved from having Moneylove sell two million copies, and doing hundreds of talks, seminars, workshops, and media interviews about prosperity and abundance all over the world over more than thirty years. Some of you reading this now came to this blog because of some positive experience you had with me and Moneylove in the past. And when someone who is curious about where I might be now and Googles me, hundreds of items come up, including ones that lead to this blog or my other, more personal blog at
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